Thursday, June 21, 2012

Two reveals and final results

I told one friend this weekend and it was awesome.  She was so excited for us, and in spite of her own previous issues, she seems to have moved past her emotional pain and is able to be truly happy.

Second reveal was the one I was more worried about.  She has been doing fertility treatments for about 8 months unsuccessfully.  As I expected, there were tears, and I felt awful.  I kept telling her that I was so sorry for having to tell her now but I didn't want to see her at some point and be really showing and have her ask me.  I told her I knew it wasn't going to be all happy for her, and she reassured me that it should be a happy thing.  I don't think she's angry - just sad for herself.  It makes me so very sad to have to cause someone that kind of pain.  We really didn't have a chance to finish the conversation because there were other people around, and I haven't heard from her since the weekend.  Now I'm not sure if I should reach out to her via e-mail or just let her process.  I'm thinking process for now. 

There's another person I'm worried about telling because she has been trying to get pregnant since before Christmas.  We're going to her house for a party next weekend, and I'm not sure if I should tell her before or if I should wait until after.  I guess I should feel lucky that I'm not showing enough yet that I'm forced to be out.  Should I take the gamble that she won't figure it out during the party?   That would be even worse... 

We told D (and E, who has no idea what's going on) over the weekend too.  He sounded excited, and has asked a handful of questions, but I think it's still a very abstract concept until he starts to see my belly growing.

Quick update on how gumdrop is doing.  The final amnio results are back and everything is normal.  My placenta is anterior and has pulled up away from the cervix, so things are looking good.  At this week's appointment to check fluid post-amnio, baby's heart rate was 148, and my BP was 110/70.  I've felt movement here and there over the past few weeks, but I felt my first real kicks that made me smile at the wall yesterday. 


cheryllookingforward said...

I'm so happy everything is normal. Perfect news!

I would tell your friend that you are going to see next weekend. It's so much easier to deal with the news when she hears it from you in advance. That way she doesn't have to wonder and then be hurt when she asks someone else and they tell her.

CeCe said...

Yay! So glad all is going great and you have reached another happy milestone!

I agree with the comment above about telling your friend.

Thanks for your recent note on my blog- I appreciate the kind words of support. :)