Thursday, October 9, 2008

Naming baby #2

Right now I have a file in my filing cabinet with my ultrasound pictures and other various paperwork from my miscarriage of baby number two. It's labeled "Baby 2." I've been reading a lot of different opinions on whether or not you should name a baby when you miscarry. I know it's a personal decision and I can do whatever I want, but I'm trying to decide what's right for me/us.

Obviously if we had named it by the time we lost it, we would call it by whatever name we picked, but since we hadn't, do we just keep calling it "baby 2?" I haven't approached my husband on this so I really don't know what his thoughts are. Honestly, like I said I still don't know what my thoughts are.

Since we won't ever know the sex, that leaves us with the sticky situation of picking an ambiguous name. Plus, we had names picked out for our first son, but I don't want to use any of those names in case we want to use them for a future baby.

I'm thinking I want to name it, though. I want to be able to say, "remember when I was pregnant with "_(insert name here)_?" Not, "Remember when I was pregnant with the second baby?"

It was a pregnancy. It was a baby. It was loved and wanted, and I guess it deserves a name.


Anonymous said...

You're right, it was your baby, he or she deserves a name, even if it is a general one. I debated for awhile naming Angel Baby "Finn" bc I wanted to 'save' the name Finn, but then I realized that Finn was already Finn, that was his name, I wouldn't use it again. And then with Flicka, well, that was her name from the beginning.
I'm so sorry for your loss :(
I'm currently writing a post dedicated to Infant Loss Remembrance Day on 10/15 and I'm trying to include as many people's Angel Babies as I can to raise awareness that this is what happens, and it's not 'just me'. Let me know if you would like your angel baby included :(


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